We all need to feel special, but those real feelings of being special come from within us when we are alive with passion for life.
You will stop pulling on others to make you special only when you accept the full responsibility of making yourself feel special.
This means learning to give yourself all that you may be trying to get from others, treating yourself in the loving ways you desire from others. There are many ways of asking ourselves to feel special. Instead of trying to get others to give you what you want, you can:
TAKE EMOTIONAL RESPONSIBILITY
Attend to your feelings throughout the day and explore what you may be doing that is causing painful feelings, rather than making others responsible for your feelings.
Attend to your own needs rather than expecting others to meet your needs.
Accept yourself rather than judge yourself. Validate yourself, approve of yourself – tell yourself the things you want to hear from others. Value your talents and gifts.
Value your intrinsic worth rather than just your looks or performance – your kindness, compassion, creativity, caring.
Behave in ways that you value – being loving, kind, integreous, compassionate, understanding, caring.
Pursue work you love, work that fulfills you, if possible.
TAKE PHYSICAL RESPONSIBILITY:
Feed yourself well to maintain health and appropriate weight.
Get enough rest and exercise.
Create balance between work and play and creative time.
Make sure you are physically safe such as when riding a motorcycle.
TAKE FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY
Make sure you are financially independent rather than dependent upon another, if physically able to do so.
Spend within your means to avoid the fear and stress of debt.
TAKE RELATIONSHIP RESPONSIBILITY
Stand up for yourself and speak your truth rather than complying, defending or resisting in the face of others' demands or criticism. Don't be a victim.
Refrain from blaming others, with anger and criticism, for your feelings and behavior. Don't be a victim.
TAKE ORGANIZATIONAL RESPONSIBILITY
Do what you say you are going to do regarding time and chores.
Make sure your living space and work environment are clean and tidy, and esthetically pleasing.
TAKE SPIRITUAL RESPONSIBILITY
Take the time to connect with the love and truth of God/Higher Power.
Take time throughout the day to bring the love down to the level of your feeling self – your Inner Child.
Treating yourself in these loving ways will eventually result in feeling internally special rather than needing others to make you feel special.
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